Assertive Communication for Youth

In order to get what you want, you must be able to talk to people in a way that helps them want to listen.  How you say something , or your style of communication, is very important.  Assertiveness is the best way to communicate without being aggressive or passive.

You are assertive when you:

  • Stand up for what is best for you
  • Make sure other people understand what you need or want
  • Openly and honestly express your ideas and feelings
  • Respect other people’s rights and ideas
  • Listen to other people

When you are assertive:

  • You stand tall
  • You look people in the eye
  • You speak clearly
  • You listen with interest

After being assertive, you feel good because:

  • You feel honest and respected
  • You feel proud

When you are assertive, other people see you as:

  • An adult
  • Able to do things
  • Honest
  • Able to make decisions
  • Independent

Being assertive is a good way to communicate.

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Adapted from University of Alaska Anchorage, Lesson Plans for Teaching Self-Determination, p. 24-27.  This page has been adapted from “The Assertiveness Program” Washington: People First of Washington, 1983, pp. 2-5.