- Face the other person
- Look in the eyes of the other person (or look at a part of their face, like their nose, if eye contact is difficult).
- Use a good voice tone (not too loud or whiny).
- Use a good facial expression.
- Use good body posture (straight or relaxed).
- Use good listening skills.
- Ask for what you want.
- State the reason why you want it.
- Thank the other person if he or she agrees to the request.
- Suggest a compromise if he or she does not agree. If they agree to the compromise, say thank you.
- Ask the other person for a solution if he or she does not agree with the compromise. Say thank you if you agree with their solution.
- Suggest a different idea and keep negotiating if you don’t like the other person’s solution. If you need more time to think about a solution, ask for it. Also ask the other person when you can talk with him or her again.
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Adapted from University of Alaska Anchorage, Lesson Plans for Teaching Self-Determination, p. 53